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  Hello??

  by franticfran in

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  i have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.

  i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.

  scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???

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  I just went back and read your very first post on Flippers thread about 'When was your last meeting " , I had to laugh because you said you felt as if someone was still looking over your shoulder while posting on here . I remember feeling that very same way too ! It takes awhile to readjust .

  I also appreciated your comment about how you felt the 'Control' in the Society seems to be increasing . In our case we had been always been faithful ,quite followers in the congregation ,but as soon as an issue arose that we had to take a stand on...watch out ....it felt like the Elders starting putting screws down on us ,and our kids, even for very minor things . It was if they had to prove to us who was in charge ....and well that backfired big time on them .

  There has been such an increase in new ones posting here the past few months ....is it mainly the change in doctrine beliefs or is it the increase of control over the members that is waking people up ?
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  Hello??

  by franticfran in

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  i have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.

  i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.

  scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???

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  troubled mind

  Welcome Fran ,

  You have found a good place to land ,lots of great people on this board with familiar stories and listening ears . My husband and I walked away seven yrs ago . I was in from birth untill 44 . It was overwhelming at first ,but it gets Much ,much better !!!! Give yourself time to adjust and expect to go through some ups and downs ,and some major emotions That is all very normal .

  Personal messages are sent by clicking on the envelope icon at the top right of this page . Sometimes to read a message you may have to go back and forth a few times before it opens ,but don't hesitate to get to know people more personally by private messages .

  It took me about three good years to finally feel free from the Watchtower effects .Several times I just wanted to speak to another person that could relate so I have exchanged phone numbers with others on here . Do whatever you need to do to adjust to 'normal' life ,just realize it IS possible .

  THere are days I find myself driving alone in my car just smiling because life is just so much more happier now ! The weight of 'doing more' is gone . The constant pressure of managing Witness life is done . Slowly we have made new friends that we stay busy with ,laugh and enjoy life with ,you will too .One of my new friends taught me to never turn down an invitation ,that is how you rebuild your circle of friends ,it works .

  Good luck to you and your family ,looking forward to hearing more of your story .
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  a jw being witnessed to video..........

  by haboob48 in

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  i still do not know how to post videos here but just watched this!

  enjoy and feel free to comment...here is the link if you care to watch.. .

  http://youtu.be/r98rm0ftvxk.

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  troubled mind

  http://youtu.be/R98rM0ftvXk

  there that is better
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  a jw being witnessed to video..........

  by haboob48 in

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  i still do not know how to post videos here but just watched this!

  enjoy and feel free to comment...here is the link if you care to watch.. .

  http://youtu.be/r98rm0ftvxk.

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  I was trying to make it clickable for you but I messed up sorry !
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  What is the most valuable thing your mother taught you?

  by usualusername in

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  what is the most valuable thing your mother taught you?.

  as an aside was she a witness or not at the time?.

  uun .

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  My Mother taught me to always think of the other person's point of view . She would say 'put yourself in their shoes before you judge '.
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  The Cat in the Can

  by Jim_TX in

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  funny story: .

  every morning, i feed the cats outside.

  i give them dry cat food, and also two small cans of cat food.

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  I love a good kitty story ,thanks Jim . i am glad you stopped laughing long enough to save him ! LOL
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  Why did you pick the name you have now

  by label licker in

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  just wondering if your name describes what you saw, how you were treated when you were "in" or now "out", maybe your personality, ect.... i'm label licker and the why i picked this name was because of all the licking up one side of elders and down the other to either be an elder or ministerial servant.

  one time i was standing right in front of this brother who wasn't made an ms yet and he totally ignored me and talked right over my head speaking really loud trying to catch the co's attention.. got sick of watching the poor elderly sitting all alone or standing against the wall like a wall flower with noone to talk to and yet all these label lickers would take turns picking up the elders elderly parents and take them shopping and do their groceries at least four times a week while out in service, yet, there was noone there to take a meal to a sister who just got out of the hospital with a heart attack.

  when i had shown up at her apartment with a meal she asked if i could wash her private and change her bandages.

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  Growing up as a Jehovah's Witness gave me a troubled mind . I feel joyful mind is now more appropriate .
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  They Are Just Like The Amish (But with Electricity)

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  i was describing jehovah's witnesses to a family member who had no idea whatsoever about them.

  i may be straightforward and describe things in terms i have learned since reading about cults, but i was not over the top in any way.

  i was simply stating the facts in a way that did not try to put any positive spin on anything.. my family member said, "so they are basically the amish but with televisions and electricity.

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  In our old hall we had Mennonite territory that was worked in FS. If you worked in that territory you were asked to not wear alot of makeup or jewelry ,and to wear very modest plain clothing . Most of the women would not speak to you at the door ,men had a better shot talking to another man.

  I think it is important for Witnesses to see how some of the other cult religions operate ....When they see others that shun and how it affects families, bend to Elder's authorities ,have fear of being destroyed for going against the belief system ....They can not help but question why they too believe similar things .

  On my way out of the JWs something that helped me was seeing a show about cults on TV . Once I saw the similarities between what JWs believed ,and how close it was to this cult religion ...it made me realize I needed to do more research . The main points were the shunning , the belief that everything outside their belief system was evil . The fear which kept a person in even if their conscience was telling them something was wrong . The guilt felt for questioning ....The absolute fear that they would be destroyed at Armegedeon .

  At the end of the show there were links to 'Steve Hassons' books and website, and to Freeminds . The points made on that show gave me the much needed strength to go ahead and investigate what I already thought may be the case ......I was raised in a religious cult too.

  It was a Dr. Phil show called "The Two Fawns " . Two teenage girls each named Fawn that had escaped the Colorado City Cult of J.Jessop .
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  At least I am not going to die soon

  by zed is dead in

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  had a bit of a scare today.

  i just was going to get some meds refilled, but i was having a panic attack when they checked my vitals.

  they insisted i go to my doctor immediately.

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  Glad your still kickin Zed !

  you asked :Has anyone else had BP spikes when in a similar situation? OH YES !!! I have been treated for high blood pressure since my thirties (it runs in my family ) But even on meds when I am anxious ,which I especially get in medical environments , my BP shoots sky high ! When I was being prept for surgery the nurse kept telling me she hoped I didn't stroke out on her ...that didn't help btw. This last surgery I told them about my anxiety before hand so they gave me something to take right away, and things went much better .

  I also found some relaxation music videos on you tube to listen to when I get anxious ,and they seem to really help .
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  Would you read your child's diary?

  by DATA-DOG in

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  this is obviously a question for parents.

  i have made my decision, but i am interested in your views and feelings.

  if you are a young person, i would be interested in your thoughts and feelings too.

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